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What is Friendship (ZT)

Knowing there is another human being you can trust completely. Realizing that someone else wants the best for you, too. Providing a gentle haven where the other can be relaxed and feel safe. Helping solve problems without taking over your friend's life Sharing the grief times along with the great times. Being together without needing to pretend. Forgiving pretenses when they do occur.

Cherishing together the joys and traumas of change and growth. Nourishing one another's dreams, hopes, and decisions along the path. Encouraging your friend to stretch as far as possible. Receiving feedback without questioning motive. Easing pain instead of fueling the fire of hurt. Loving another person in spite of differences and imperfections.

Extolling virtues rather than expanding on flaws. Accepting a friend's anger toward you, as yours is also sanctioned. Sending love even when you're not together or in agreement. Coming to your friend's aid an expecting nothing in return. Freeing each other from the manipulations that undo many relationships. Dancing through life together, not trudging along toward death. Soaring to new heights rather than plunging into murk and mire.

Finding time to be together despite the obstacles of everyday living. Wanting no more than to be with your friend at that moment. Understanding the occasional need for distance. Taking up right where you left off, even after several years. Knowing that your commitment to each other is always by choice. Giving freely when appropriate and taking graciously when needed.

Divining each other's thoughts and feelings easily and often. Saying "no" without having to explain why. Winning and losing do not matter to real friends. Friendships are not instantaneous, they are earned. Friendships withstand the storms and upheavals of time. Friendships surpass the trite boundaries of acquaintanceship. Friendships often develop with improbable people at unlikely times. Friends know the difference between image and substance. Friends bask in the glow of the other's triumphs. Friends will be there when you need them. Friends are one of God's greatest gifts.

Jack Clarke



Copyright © 1996. The Light Party.

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友谊是一种温静与沉着的爱,为理智所引导,习惯所结成,从长久的认识与共同的契合而产生,没有嫉妒,也没有恐惧。

——荷 麦

友谊永远是一个甜柔的责任,从来不是一种机会。

——纪伯伦

真友谊象磷火——在你周围最黑暗的时刻显得最亮。

——D.M.

真正的友情,是一株成长缓慢的植物。

——华盛顿

亲善产生幸福,文明带来和谐。

——雨 果

挚友如异体同心。

——亚里士多德

世间最美好的东西,莫过于有几个头脑和心地都很正直的严正的朋友。

——爱因斯坦

和你一同笑过的人,你可能把他忘掉;但是和你一同哭过的人,你却永远不忘。

——纪伯伦

没有朋友也没有敌人的人,就是凡夫俗子。

——拉法特

对众人一视同仁,对少数人推心置腹,对任何人不要亏负。

——莎士比亚

在各种孤独中间,人最怕精神上的孤独。

——巴尔扎克

单独一个人可能灭亡的地方,两个人在一起可能得救。

——巴尔扎克

最能施惠于朋友的,往往不是金钱或一切物质上的接济,而是那些亲切的态度,欢悦的谈话,同情的流露和纯真的赞美。
——富兰克林,美国政治家、科学家

友谊是我们哀伤时的缓和剂,激情的舒解剂,是我们的压力的流泄口,我们灾难时的庇护所,是我们犹疑时的商议者,是我们脑
子的清新剂,我们思想的散发口,也是我们沉思的锻炼和改进。
——杰里米.泰勒,美国政治家

友谊,以互相尊重为基础的崇高美好的友谊,深切的同情,对别人的成就决不恶意嫉妒,对自己培养一种集体利益高于一切的意识。
——奥斯特洛夫斯基,前苏联作家

一个人在其人生道路上如果不注意结识新交,就会很快感到孤单。先生,人应当
不断地充实自己对别人的友谊。
——塞.约翰逊,英国作家

真诚的,十分理智的友谊是人生的无价之宝。你能否对你的朋友守信不渝,永远
做一个无愧于他的人,这就是你的灵魂、性格、心理以至于道德的最好的考验。
——马克思,德国思想家、哲学家

最长的友谊最能给人以欢乐。更何况还有这么一句至理名言:“在一起共过很多
患难的人,其友谊才称得上牢不可破。”
——西塞罗,古罗马雄辩家、政治家

最好的朋友是那种不喜欢多说,能与你默默相对而又息息相通的人。

——高尔基

你的敌人和朋友携手合作,才能伤你的心。敌人大肆诽谤你,朋友赶忙传给你听。 ——马克·吐温

真正的友谊既能容忍朋友提出的劝告,又有使自己接受劝告。 ——西塞罗

友情为人生之酒。 ——杨格

于顺境中交朋友只需费一举手之劳;在困厄时寻找友谊简直比登天还难。

——爱比克泰德

在无利害观念之外,互相尊敬似乎是友谊的另一要点。 ——莫罗阿

如果朋友是盲人,我就从侧面看他。 ——儒贝尔

很多显得像朋友的人其实不是朋友,而很多是朋友的并不显得像朋友。

——德谟克里特

到月亮上去不算太远;我们要走的最大距离还是在我们之间。 ——戴高乐

友谊是培养人的感情的学校。 ——苏霍姆林斯基

如果说,友谊能够调剂人的感情的话,那么友谊的又一种作用则是能增进人的智慧。 ——培根

对于聪明人来说,劝告是多余的;对于愚昧人来说,劝告是不够的。

——莫里哀

友谊像清晨的雾一样纯洁,奉承并不能得到友谊,友谊只能用忠实去巩固它。

——马克思

我们结交朋友的方法,应该是给他人好处,而不是向他人索取。这种友谊最为可靠。 ——修昔底斯

即使是最神圣的友谊里也可能潜藏着秘密,但是你不可以因为你不能猜测出朋友的秘密而误解了他。 ——贝多芬

所谓友情,是平等的人们之间离开了利益关系的交易。 ——哥尔斯

受惠的人,必须把那恩惠常藏心底,但是施恩的人则不可记住它。

——西塞罗

友谊是美德之手段,并且本身就是美德,是共同的美德。 ——费尔巴哈

我们不应该不惜任何代价地去保持友谊,从而使它受到玷污。如果为了那更伟大的爱,必须牺牲友谊,那也是没有办法的事;不过如果能够保持下去,那么,它就能真的达到完美的境界了。 ——泰戈尔

如果友谊一旦破坏了,连爱情也不能够再使它恢复。 ——《五卷书》

朋友之间感情真诚,敌人就会无隙可乘。 ——萨迪

聪明的人们就应该尽上力量去建立友谊,而不应去结仇恨。 ——《五卷书》

友谊永远是一个甜柔的责任,从来不是一种机会。 ——纪伯伦

人与人之间,只有真诚相待,才是真正的朋友。谁要是算计朋友,等于自己欺骗自己。 ——哈吉·阿布巴卡·伊芒

友谊往往是由一种两个人比一个人更容易实现的共同利益结成的,只有在相互满足时这种关系才是纯洁的。 ——斯特林堡

友谊、活跃和青春的歌声会减轻我们的痛苦。 ——空茨凯维支

友谊是慷慨、荣誉的最贤慧的母亲,是感激和仁慈的姐妹,是憎恨和贪婪的死敌;它时时刻刻都准备舍己为人,而且完全出于自愿不用他人恳求。

——薄伽丘

保持友谊的最好办法就是任何事情也不假手于他,同时也不借钱给他。

——保罗

撇开友谊,无法谈青春,因为友谊是点缀青春的最美的花朵。

——池田大作

妥协对任何友谊都不是坚固的基础。 ——泰戈尔

匹夫不可以不慎取友。友者,所以相有也。 ——荀况

士有妒友,则贤交不亲,君有妨臣,则贤臣不至。 ——荀况

二人同心,其利断金;同心之言,其香如兰。 ——《易·系辞》

习与正人居之,不能无正也;犹生长于齐,不能不齐语也。 ——贾谊

君子拙于不知己,而信于知己。 ——司马迁

不知其人,视其友。——司马迁

掘井须到流,结交须到头。 ——贾岛

近贤则聪;近愚则聩。 ——皮日休

百年心如同,谁限河南北? ——姚合

恩情须学水长流。 ——鱼玄机

浅近轻浮莫与交。 ——贯林

求友须在良,得良终相善。求友若非良,非良中道变。欲知求友心,先把黄金炼。 ——孟郊

结交非贤者,难免生爱憎。 ——孟郊

山河不足重,重在遇知己。 ——鲍溶

人生交结在终始,莫以开沉中路分。 ——贺兰进明

择友如淘金,沙尽不得宝。 ——李成用

亲之割之不断,疏者属之不坚。 ——韩愈

当君远相知,不道云海深。 ——王昌龄

相见情已深,未语可知心。 ——李白

相知在急难,独处亦何益。 ——李白

交友投分,切磨箴视。 ——周兴嗣

势力之交,古人羞之。 ——刘义庆

善人同处,则日闻嘉训;恶人从游,则日生邪情。 ——范晔

贫游不可忘,久交念敦敬。 ——鲍照

不就利,不违害,不强交,不苟绝,惟有道者能之。 ——王通

恶人相远离,善者近相知。 ——王梵志

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How to Be a Great Best Friend
Edited byDave Crosby and 58 others




Be your own best friend first. Learn how to respect yourself. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Understand what values are important to you, stick by them and seek others who honor those values.
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2Be loyal. Stick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Also come to understand their limits and say "no" when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. It is the fact that through ups, downs, and disagreements you still seek to work things out and be their friend that truly demonstrates your loyalty.3Listen. Nobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks, but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, it's okay if you're also a good listener. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say "yeah" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.4Be trustworthy. If they tell you a secret, keep it, never ever, ever, tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret. Don't gossip about your best friend, don't say anything that might turn into a rumor, and don't do things that you know would upset them. For example, if she/he had a crush on a cute guy/girl she/he would be embarrassed if you told someone. Make sure you know your best friend is okay with it. Things like that are sometimes hard to do, but if you want a solid friendship you have to be trustworthy.5Stick up for them. Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge!! in best friends. If your best friend is getting seriously bullied and you're scared you'll get hurt if you get involved, then get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Sometimes you can feel totally better after being picked on when a friend tells everyone else to shut up and clear off.6Spend time together. Hang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.7Be yourself. Being yourself around someone is part of what makes you guys best friends. You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that. Being "fake" could lead you to losing your best friend. best friends with someone who you know you can be yourself around, because it isn't worth it trying to be someone you're not so you can be closer to someone. Don't hold things in either, so if you feel uncomfortable or have hard feelings against your best friend, talk about it with them. Make things comfortable between you two, and you'll both go through thick and thin together.8Care for your best friend. If they're away from home, send them cards or care packages to show that you care. If they're sick, call them and ask how they are doing. Best friends care for each other. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. Write them notes to show that you care and are thankful for them, and ask about their lives. Share your own stories, but make sure you have time for them.9Avoid Expectations. If you assume what best friends' roles are, you will get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are one of the most valuable friends you have, but they cannot help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. If there are expectations your Best friends need to reach, that will only leave you in a disappointing defeat. Be nice, do not email them saying they are a liar or you won't feel so good.10Share laughs. There is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest and funniest stuff.11Trust each other. You may find it hard in life and think that it is impossible to keep your best friend happy. To be a good best friend really doesn't take much. All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other with everything and you don't keep secrets. You will go through rough patches but everyone does a some stage in their lives. Just remember though, in order for them to tell you things you do have to tell them things too, even if it's nothing big. Being a best friend means you talk about everything together and you have so much in common. Some best friends do everything together, they have fun and they can be on the phone for hours just talking about their day they have had. You also need to make sure that they know you are always there for them, when ever they need you and that they feel comfortable talking to you about any problems they have. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give the some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend you have to understand them and maybe sometimes or most of the time ask them for advice. You should never keep anything back from them either, even if you think that they will get hurt by it.12Spend some time together. If you feel like you are drifting apart a little then maybe think about doing something together one day, like going shopping or having a sleepover.. you know something fun. Most girls would know that being a best friend means telling gossip that you have heard and you need to fill them in on it. Sometimes you might think it's hard but it will get easier, you just have to know what your doing.13Care for them. If your best friend is ever upset then ask them what's wrong. They might not tell you straight away but they will in the end, you just have to comfort them and let them know that you are there no matter what. If a boy has upset them then tell them not to worry or it will be ok because you are there for them and your not going any where. Also tell then that there are plenty more boys out there somewhere just waiting for them and that they will find one that loves them for who they are. Just trying to be a good best friend shows them how much you really care. Just remember to help them when they need it... lending a helping hand to your best friend really doesn't cost much. In the end of the day, they would soon do it all for you.14Maybe you weren't meant to be best friends. If neither of you make an effort to get together, or if you get into fights with them for no reason, then maybe you weren't meant to be best friends. It's natural to stop having chemistry with a certain person, and if you grow apart, just be happy for the good times, and know how lucky you were to have that great person have a part in your life.15Never leave them. I've done this many times before and I regret it alot. Never say "Yeah, I'll walk home with you!" or "I'll meet up with you tomorrow" and then you don't do it. That makes your friend think do I really trust her? Never do this.16If they pick another friend over you, just try to be friends with her friend too. Maybe you guys can be a group of friends! Everyone is always looking for new friends!17Remember, a friend is a gift for you. You should stick up for them when they have problems. You need to ask them what problems they have. You can't just blabber away and say stuff about them because they never told you anything.

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